Break Ups


Guess what today is? It is another day of the All You Need Is Love Project by Carmen at ShuGar Love. This week’s topic is: How have you healed from a broken heart? Check out last week’s topic.


I’ve been in a relationship with my husband since I was 22, so I’ve only dated several guys in college and high school. When I look back at those relationships, I don’t know why I dated some of them. They were not my type.

But there were some that I was very hurt when they broke up with me. I remember crying for days. I got over it eventually. I had to move on and I did. Your mind tells your body to kick itself into gear.

When I really think about a certain relationship that I ‘thought’ I was very hurt, it wasn’t much of a relationship. I met this guy at a junior teen camp that we were both volunteering at when I was 19. I thought he was a really nice guy and we hung out all week. We didn’t live in the same town, which made it hard connecting. We talked several times after camp and I even visited him once. He broke up with me after that. I was so hurt. But really I didn’t get a chance to really know him and I didn’t get to the point of ‘love.’ So really, I was hurt that I was dumped. I wasn’t crushed because I loved him.

Not only have I been dumped, I’ve broke off several relationships with guys. I may have even broken their hearts. Sorry guys. But it just wasn’t meant to be.

Can you remember the first guy you dated? I bet the relationship wasn’t the best. I know mine wasn’t. I was so young and didn’t know anything about making a relationship last.

We were both in 8th grade and so shy. We dated for couple years, but we didn’t talk much. That was how shy we were. I tried breaking up with him or should I say that I had a friend tell him. You should have seen the look on his face. He was so hurt. I couldn’t stand it. I felt sorry for him. So I had my friend tell him it was a joke. We didn’t officially break up. How did we break up? That summer it was a mutual understanding that we weren’t together anymore. We knew it wasn’t going to work between us. There was no hurt on both sides and we stayed friends for the rest of high school.

So that is my experience with break ups. What has been your experience?

7 thoughts on “Break Ups

  1. Wonderful post! It’s amazing how much we learn about ourselves from our break ups. It’s also funny how we feel like it’s the end of the world and that our heart will never heal and then times teaches us otherwise. So cute that puppy love of yours! I love it…asking someone else to break up with the person! Nobody likes to be the bearer of bad news. Poor guy. I do believe breakups teach you to appreciate the real deal when you find it, right?

    1. Thanks! Time does teach us. It may have seems so bad at that moment, but now it doesn’t affect us. I sometimes think back and think why did I say what I said or do what I did.

  2. I really love that you realized that things just weren’t meant to be with those guys.
    When I sat down to write this post I never thought about the relationships I broke off, nice outlook on that.. We always forget that we could have broken a heart just like we have gotten our own heart broken also. Great post! 🙂

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